Creating a dating profile shouldn’t feel like writing a college essay. But y’all out here looking like you’re submitting your MFA thesis. Keep it real. Keep it light. And most importantly, make it worth someone’s double-tap or swipe.
Let’s not pretend all dating profiles are made equal. Some are giving “seen by five exes and a dog walker,” while others look like the person got coaching from Beyoncé’s PR team.
Let’s fix that. Here’s a checklist that’s built using actual data, studies, and online behavior—not random advice from people who still text their ex.
Stop Writing Like a LinkedIn Résumé
You are not applying to be someone’s tax accountant (unless you are—then hey, lead with that). Your dating bio needs to say something that actually sounds like you.
Profiles following this ratio get 53% more replies. It’s not magic. It’s people wanting to talk to someone real.
Don‘t Be the Mystery Emoji
You’re hiding behind sunglasses in that fourth photo again, aren’t you? Data shows people hiding their faces get fewer matches—by a lot.
Want more replies? Lose the filtered gym selfies. Use photos that say something. Playing soccer? Fine. Baking bread? Great. Hugging a goat? Okay, but explain that in your bio.
Tell a Story, Don‘t Give a List
Saying “I love music, movies, and travel” is like saying water is wet.
In one study, metaphors and specific self-disclosures made profiles appear 38% more intelligent and more appealing. So, no, “foodie” doesn’t cut it. Be weird specific. It works.
Ask to Know, Not to Be Known
Most people talk about themselves so much, you’d think they’re writing their autobiography.
Berkeley researchers found that only 1% of profiles showed curiosity about learning about a partner. Yet, those profiles got up to 4x more replies. Instead of “I want someone who supports me,” try “I’m excited to hear what drives you.”
It makes you look open. Emotionally tuned in. And honestly, like someone that people would actually want to hang out with.
Use the Prompts—And Answer Them Properly
Most platforms have questions. Use them.
If the prompt makes you cringe, that’s the point. Answer like you’ve got some flavor in your personality.
Love Looks Different On Everyone’s Screen
Some people want serious. Some want casual. And some want someone to share a plate of fries with on Thursdays. The kind of relationship you’re looking for shapes how your profile should read. If you’re on an app like Bumble or Hinge, your bio hinting at future plans might serve you well. On platforms like Tinder or even a sugar daddy website, the tone might be more upfront or playful, with a focus on chemistry.
Your profile should match the vibe of the space you’re in. Someone who’d post a couple’s yoga pic on OkCupid might go for a glam cocktail shot on a more flirt-forward site. One isn’t better than the other. They’re just different lanes. Pick yours and build your profile like you mean it.
A Picture Is Worth More Likes, But Make It Count
Leave the thirst traps for Instagram. Real wins here.
Write Better Bios Without Overdoing It
Short and interesting beats long and boring every time.
Add one emoji max. Not five pineapples and a random goat. Nobody knows what you’re trying to say.
Small Chats Shouldn‘t Feel Like Job Interviews
Messaging shouldn’t feel forced or formal.
Active people—those posting, liking, joining forums—got 133% more views. Don’t lurk. Be seen.
Final Tip: Be Honest, Not Basic
Saying “Let’s see where this goes” makes people think you’re unavailable. Want more responses? Say what you’re actually looking for. Add specificity. Say what you want. Don’t hedge.
This isn’t about tricking anyone. It’s about showing who you are and making it easy for the right person to say, “Yeah, I’d message them.”
Now, go rework that bio. And delete that photo where you’re holding a fish. Please.
